A Domly Master Dominant

I am the very model of a Domly Master Dominant
My reputation and my paunch both are well known and prominent
I know the slaves of Ko-ro-ba, and quote the books John Norman wrote
From Sula-Ki to Nadu kneel, without my slave getting a vote
I’m very well acquainted too with leather slaves traditional
I undertake discipline, for obeyance unconditional
About slave hearts and protocol I’m teeming with a lot of news
Confused with subjects covered in those books of Laura Antoniou’s
I have contempt for Fifty Shades of Grey cause I’m so literate

Authority v. Power

Authority is the right to act

Power is the ability to act.

Let’s be clear: this isn’t a “definitions” rant.  Technically you can use either word to mean either thing.  Authority, broadly defined, means “the power or right to give orders,” and power, broadly defined, can subsume authority. However, the term authority doesn’t usually carry the implicit assumption of sufficient force, whereas power always does.

All Relationships have Power Exchange

In responding to a post on an online forum, and in other thoughts recently, I’ve been discussing the concept that all relationships inherently involve power exchange. Certainly my Grandmother and Grandfather had power exchange. What makes what we call “power exchange relationships” unique is that the exchange is negotiated rather than based on some implicit interpretation of tradition. I think the real focus  is on the concept of negotiated relationships, and I don’t think that’s a concept we separate enough.

Political Fundraising, Extremism, 1984, and Disconnection from Reality

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/the-fix/wp/2014/02/25/there-are-six-kinds-of-twitter-political-twitter-is-the-worst-of-them/I’m not against political fundraisng. And I realize that the apparatus of modern fundraising calls for continual e-mails to anyone and everyone who accepts them, creating an atmosphere of crisis. That said, after a while it becomes surreal.

Christmas Movies that Don’t Suck

Every year for some years since I was sick on Christmas and spent the day with Stephanie lying in bed watching TCM, I’ve tried to do a little Film Festival that day to go with Chinese Food. The problem is I don’t like most Christmas movies. I don’t even really celebrate Christmas except as a secular American Holiday.

So I’ve been collecting Christmas Movies that didn’t suck. This is my current list:

Bilbo Baggins takes the One Ring for himself.

So…I walked into the kitchen and said “Good Morning” and the housemate being a smart ass started the Gandalf quote.. “What do you mean? Do you wish me a good morning or mean that it is a good morning whether I want it to be or not or that you feel good this morning or that it is a morning to be good on?”

At that point, I dropped into a voice that was sort of a cross between Bilbo and Gollum and said

Salon.Com: My sexuality after porn

To me this article isn’t about a difficulty with someone’s sex drive. It’s about a difficulty in our society.  I realize the author doesn’t see it that way.  And I realize the author has his right to his interpretation of his sexual situation.  But…writing about that situation on Salon.com is stepping outside yourself.  When you offer yourself as a public icon “this is what this thing is like,” you open yourself to debate and discussion, and a challenge of the validity not of your experience, but of your interpretation of it.